dating – Sandhya Rani Jha

Men are like buses???

What’s that phrase you use…the one when a friend’s just been unceremoniously dumped by a man, or is afraid to let go of a man for fear of being lonely? I ask because I just took a bus. It was a bus that picks me up near my friend’s apartment in Albany, my favorite IndianContinue reading “Men are like buses???”

My season of singleness – Final entry

If you’d like some theme music while you read this, I highly recommend the smash-hit Valentine’s Day mashup “Single Loser” by Beckyonce. I’m listening to it as I write this. When I started writing this back in September, I wasn’t sure anyone was reading my series on being intentionally single for a season (by clicking onContinue reading “My season of singleness – Final entry”

Guest post: A celebration of singleness (Or, as originally titled, “I s***.” Just so you’re warned.)

Many of you have been following my posts about my Season of Singleness, which officially ended on December 31, although I’m definitely not rushing into anything serious right now. One of my good friends from the justice movement, Beth Trimarco, was inspired enough by the series to write her own observations about what is GREATContinue reading “Guest post: A celebration of singleness (Or, as originally titled, “I s***.” Just so you’re warned.)”

Christmas values – Day 7: Childlike wonder

“The three men you loved… what did they have in common?” he asked helpfully. “Boyish enthusiasm.” I didn’t have to think long. “Figure out what that’s a signifier for and pursue that other thing instead. You keep dating boys. They keep hurting you. It’s not their fault. They’re not men.”

The Single Rev by Choice – For a Season

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON FIDELIA’S SISTERS ON DECEMBER 9, 2014: http://youngclergywomen.org/single-rev-choice/ You know the poem about how people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime? Singleness sometimes feels like it has come into my life (unbidden) for a lifetime, but I’m choosing it for this season. God and I have had wordsContinue reading “The Single Rev by Choice – For a Season”

Singleness Day 60 — Extending Singleness

I love the series Sex and the City more than is healthy. I mean, I love it enough that at regional church women gatherings, I might covertly whisper to a church woman, “I know I shouldn’t watch it, but there’s an episode of Sex and the City,” and the woman would respond, “You know youContinue reading “Singleness Day 60 — Extending Singleness”

Being Single On Purpose Day 36 – Accepting Loneliness and Being Willing to Trade Away a Lifetime of Good Sex for a Really Good Online Fundraising Genius

So in September I chose to take on a season of singleness (3 months, although I’m thinking I’ll make it four and see out 2014 without another bad date). I did it mostly to figure out how to overcome the loneliness that has been haunting this usually single extrovert on and off for the betterContinue reading “Being Single On Purpose Day 36 – Accepting Loneliness and Being Willing to Trade Away a Lifetime of Good Sex for a Really Good Online Fundraising Genius”

Forgiving God and coming to terms with singleness…day 10

“Taking a hiatus from dating, actually.” He wasn’t my type, but he was unquestionably cute. So I was glad I had a good excuse in my back pocket when he asked if I was single this afternoon. People trying to avoid the wrong kind of attention — BEST. LINE. EVER. With the added bonus ofContinue reading “Forgiving God and coming to terms with singleness…day 10”

My ex-boyfriend wants you to know some things about me (or–God’s not done with me yet)

On Saturday I received a text message from an ex-boyfriend that reminded me of the worst part of myself and one of the most painful periods in my life. He wanted you to know things from his perspective rather than just from mine, so I thought I’d share the text as he wrote it (withContinue reading “My ex-boyfriend wants you to know some things about me (or–God’s not done with me yet)”

To the guy who told me to “loose weight” before he would “make out on the porch swing” with me

Dear “Nice Guy” (Your name choice; I’m glad irony is not dead on craigslist): I received your response to my craigslist ad last night (posted below), responding to my ad, in which I sought a “nerdy radical with great race analysis.” I assumed this title would draw people who had an interest in politics and alsoContinue reading “To the guy who told me to “loose weight” before he would “make out on the porch swing” with me”